The Essential Oil Post

As mentioned in my About page, throughout the year I’ll be sharing my experience and insights as I go through The WellGrounded Life Certification Program for Women’s Wellness Educators. And this week, we touched on essential oils.

Ahhhh, how I love these little gems in brown bottles.

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I’ve been using essential oils within my home for some time now, and the whole family has benefited. In fact, I love them so much that I knew they would be part of my women’s wellness journey and after a lot of research, decided to join an amazing team integrated within an essential oil company.

I love them. And learning even more about them as part of the certification course has just strengthened my belief that everyone should know about these natural solutions.

It did nothing but reiterate to me that every person should have access to these oils, and that you should have a trusted resource to learn about them. Simply put, I want you to be safe. I want you to be able to confidently use essential oils and know the proper way to handle them. I want you to have the highest quality of oils in your hands, so you can get the most benefit from them.

To learn more about my trusted brand of oils, click here to contact me. I’ll send you all the details, and if you have any questions we can continue the conversation over email or on the phone! You get me, one-on-one, for a private consultation.

(I promise to keep your information safe, and will not automatically add to you other lists. Promise!)

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When Your Goals Aren’t Going As Planned

Have you ever set a goal for yourself that turned into a burden?

Something that made you sad, grumpy, or even embarrassed about, because things weren’t going as well as you had planned?

If you have, I encourage you to reframe your mindset, restate your goal and girl – give yourself some GRACE.

Reframe your mindset

We can all choose our own reactions to things. I’m a big believer in that. Especially things that we have some control over, like a personal goal. So if you have  ever began a huge goal and then life got in the way, pick yourself up and dust off.

There is something to be learned in trying and not succeeding. Look for the lesson. Be thankful for what it taught you. Look around you. Reflect on at all that you have and with what you have been blessed.

Ask yourself, “Is this goal still something I want?” Not because people think you should do it, or you feel like you should do it.  Does it light you up when you think about it or get you somewhere you want to be? Does it work on an area that is (1) important to you and (2) in an area where improvement or advancement is needed?

If so, proceed. If not, then it’s okay to let it go. Truly.

Restate your goal

Once you’ve determined that your goal is important, needed and makes you happy, restate it. First, make sure you’re not trying to change too much at once. Small changes made over time are better than drastic ones.

Second, restate it in a way that doesn’t set you up for failure. For example, if I say “I’m going to eat a wholesome breakfast everyday this month.” That’s a small enough change, but everyday? What happens if I miss it on Day 9 ? … Well, then I’ve already missed my mark. Ugh. Well, it was a good attempt. I’ll pat myself on the back, say “I tried” and will give it another go next month.

Have you been there?

Now, what if I had said instead, “I’m going to eat a wholesome breakfast 25 times this month.” What happens on Day 9 if I miss it? … Well, nothing really. My goal is still doable. I’m still on track. I just have to make sure to keep going.  And I will! Self high five!

If keeping track of days isn’t your thing, find a small reward to give yourself that works for you. For example, if you’re a visual person print out a blank picture or a grid (or pick up one of those adult coloring books that have become popular) and keep it somewhere in your kitchen, on display. Each day you stay on track with your goal, color in a shape or square. Not only will this be a daily visual reminder, at the end of the month you’ll be rewarded with a beautiful picture or a fully colored grid.

Alternatively, if you’re the type who gets satisfaction by crossing something off a list, create a sheet with 25 objects and cross one off each time you have a success.

Bonus Tip: Accountability can do amazing stuff.  If you’re the type of person who is motivated by accountability, find a partner to check-in with daily or weekly. That is gold. Support each other wherever you’re at. Encourage each other. You don’t have to be close geographically. A quick text or message will do.

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Give yourself some grace

Restating our goals as described above provides us room for grace in our lives. Grace to miss a day when our bodies need rest. Grace to take care of a sick child instead of working out. Grace to enjoy a Sunday breakfast out with family instead of just a protein shake that day.

See, setting up your goals to allow for grace means setting yourself up for success.

These are things that might have derailed us before and caused us to say “I’ll just never be a person who is consistent with [fill in the blank].” or “My life is just too [crazy/busy/spontaneous] to stick to something.”

Or even worse “I can’t.”

Yes, you can. 

 Do you have a goal that you need to restate? What type of tracking system would motivate you the most? 

Baby Steps

It’s almost February.

How are your New Year’s Resolutions going? Did you make any? I didn’t. Well, I didn’t make resolutions in the traditional sense. Because what I did do is make goals. And inserted people into my life who will hold me accountable to those goals. But that’s not what this post is about.

Let’s talk about change. If you did make a resolution, it was probably centered on changing something. (If your resolution was, say, to go on a tropical vacation – you’re awesome and we should hang out.)

Is there something you want to change? About yourself? Your habits? Your relationships?

Where do you see yourself at the end of this year?

It’s tempting. Oh. So. Tempting. To throw your fists to the sky and proclaim “Tomorrow is the day! I will change overnight! And in the morning I will…” Eat healthier, be more present, exercise daily, keep the house clean, be the mom my kids deserve and a better partner to my husband… whatever it is that you chose to change. But friends, that will normally result in us staying exactly where we are. See, our brains are wired to protect us from too much change at once. (For those interested in a biology lesson, I’m referring to the amygdala, which is part of the brain’s limbic system.) It will physically work against us!

Little by little

The key to getting where we want to be is by making a series of small changes over time.  Start small. Let your brain get used to that new “normal” – then do it again.

Small change – pause  – and let your brain adjust.

Repeat.

What do your small changes look like? Instead of a diet rehaul maybe you just start a water routine, start taking a multi-vitamin, or replace your usual dessert with a fruit option. Instead of trying to keep the house clean at all times starting NOW maybe you implement a laundry routine or aim to have all the dishes washed before going to bed. Spend 5 more minutes snuggling the kids at bed time. Give a daily compliment to your spouse.  Give yourself 5 minutes of deep-breathing to re-center after lunch.

Start with one, and do it until it’s your new normal.

  • Until you don’t even have to think about drinking that glass of water in the morning or taking your vitamin – it’s just what you do.
  • Until you don’t give a second thought about unloading the dishwasher while your morning coffee brews – it’s just what you do.
  • Until you text your spouse a word of encouragement on a day he needs it because that is just what you do.

Be careful not to rush into the next change until you’ve settled into your first small change. It can be hard in today’s instant gratification world, and I’ve fallen into this trap before (so many times)! But it is worth the wait.

So pause. Settle in.

Then do it again.

What small change do you plan to start implementing to get to where you want to be? Leave a comment and let me know!