You know the days. Your attempt to just relax in bed for 2 more minutes after your alarm goes off turned into you jolting up several minutes later, realizing you fell back asleep and have .00865 minutes to get out the door. [Insert your choice expletive here!]
So begins a frantic, blood-pumping, adrenaline fueled routine of dressing yourself, your kids… wait, did they brush their teeth? Did you??…eat breakfast while heading out the door and thanking the universe that the bus was just a minute late today allowing you to get the kids on board. Whew. You did it.
Or we’re so overwhelmed with our work/family balance, the household chores, maintaining appearances, dealing with family issues, health issues, shuttling kids from one event to another, finding time to let each family member know they are appreciated…..and there’s that thing you always think about doing but never have time for. Sigh. There are oh so many reasons we are stressed out these days.
Thinking all the thoughts about all the things on your plate, responsibilities, deadlines…
You can feel the stress in your body. Your breathing get shallower and more rapid, without you even realizing it.
Your body sends out extra adrenaline.
You turn to comfort food.
When you’re stressed out, you may feel like you have to manage that stress better. (Other people make it look so easy!) Just push through it, or become apathetic so things don’t get to you anymore.
One more time, for emphasis.
Become apathetic – or disconnected – so things don’t get to you anymore.
Or maybe you swing the other way, and become super sensitive to stressors – until the smallest incident (like a child taking their time putting on his shoes when you’re running late) causes you to LOSE. YOUR. EVER. LOVING. MIND.
We’ve all been there
I’ve been there.
And then I learned one key concept that flipped my stress on it’s head.
It’s this…. Instead of turning stress off, it’s much easier to turn calm on.
Visualize, a playground seesaw, with Stress on one side and Calm on the other. Away they go, alternating highs and lows. Stress is up, calm is low. Stress is low, calm is high. They both can’t be high at the same time, or on the ground at the same time.
That is also true for the stress and calm systems in our bodies.
So, next time you are stressed out, instead of trying to deal with it by pushing the stress down, focus on lifting the calm up. That will cause the effects of stress felt in your body and emotions to be counteracted, automatically.
How do we increase calm in a season of stress?
Glad you asked. There are several techniques, and lucky for us, they are actually pretty easy to implement once you learn them. And while I could write about them here, I want to do one better. I want to show you.
As my final project for the Women’s Wellness Educator program, I’ve recorded a webinar called “Chaos to Calm” and it’s yours for free.
To be automatically sent the training, just click here to get added to the list – then you’ll be automatically granted access.
During this video, I’ll touch on (and demonstrate) techniques such as Breathing, Aromatics, Tapping, and Calm Holds. I’ll also explain why you can’t “think yourself calm” and more!
You’ll walk away with actionable tools that you can start using immediately.
So next time life hits you with a challenge, you can maintain your cool, stay connected, avoid the chaos and handle the situation differently.